“I’m sorry… I never cry at work like this. I’m so embarrassed.” I had just gotten out of an emotionally draining meeting where the stress from my personal and professional life had culminated and finally resulted in a humiliating emotional outburst. “Stop.” My former HR manager replied, “You don’t have to apologize for your emotions.” She was right. I suddenly wondered: why am I apologizing for my emotions?
One of the biggest lies about introversion is that an Introvert, with enough practice, can turn into an Extravert. For a long time, this misconception was supported, even encouraged, by everyone from psychologists to business professionals. Fortunately, we have enough research and information about introversion and extraversion today to know that these are fixed personality traits.
Ms. Smith was not quiet nor kind. She was loud and mean. She had a blonde pixie haircut and drove a red Mustang convertible. She had an attitude that said she knew she was cooler than the other fifth grade teachers.
It took a long time for me to accept that I’m an introvert. It took even longer for me to realize that being an introvert is a positive thing. Like many people, I viewed introversion as a disease that needed to be cured. I thought my preference for being alone meant that something was wrong with me.
Do you feel like you easily pick up on the emotions of others? Are you the person in your family or friendship group who is always trying to maintain harmony? Would others describe you as warm, empathetic, or caring? If you answered yes to each of these questions, you might be an FJ personality type.
I’d been told to come to the interview prepared with several questions. After interviewing with the HR director for nearly an hour, I asked, “What does the ideal personality for this position look like to you?” “Well,” said the director. “The person doesn’t necessarily have to be an extrovert, but they need to be able to act like one.”
I was standing in line in the lunchroom one day in fifth grade when I heard someone call my name. A boy from my homeroom class was standing a few feet away waving me over to him and his group of friends. I felt my face turn beet red and a ten-pound boulder dropped into the pit of my stomach. My body froze, unsure of what to do next. I slowly walked up to the group of eleven-year-olds. “Are you a mute?” He asked.
Within the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) there are 16 personality types. Out of all of these types, the INFJ personality type is the rarest making up only 1-3 percent of the population. Are you wondering how to be an INFJ personality type? You’re not alone. Most people are not INFJs, although many will tell you otherwise. Even though the INFJ personality type is rare, INFJs are actually everywhere. INFJ is the most popular personality type listed in women on online dating sites.
My word of the year is: focus. One goal I’m focusing on is leveling up in my INFJ personal growth journey. Every step that I take is carefully calculated to ensure that it helps me continue my journey to become the best version of myself. With future-oriented Introverted iNtuition (Ni) as our dominant function, INFJs are often thinking about our goals. As long as we’ve organized our goals, Ni does a good job of focusing and getting things done.
When you think of an ambitious person, you might think of charismatic leaders or powerful influencers. Many times these people are loud, opinionated, and willing to sacrifice the opinions of others in order to get their way. Maybe people like Steve Jobs or John F. Kennedy come to mind. When you think of ambition, you probably don’t think of the quiet intern who sits in the cubicle next to you at work or the pleasant housekeeper who is secretly dreaming up a business idea while folding laundry.
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